At one time, anxiety ruled my life. I tried to cover my feelings and plowed through the day, getting things done. At that time, my feelings on the subject were that selfish people indulged in self-care, and it was nowhere on my radar. Sure, I exercised and made a healthy dinner, but from the time I got up to hit the gym early till my head hit the pillow, there was NEVER downtime. Early childhood memories were of a family where something always needed to be done, and we kept ourselves busy to avoid discipline. How I translated that into my adult life is funny and somewhat sad. My strong work ethic equated to being hardworking and prosperous, but the expectations I put on myself were physically making me sick.

Life is always going to throw curveballs our way. This informal way of defining an unexpected or challenging situation shouldn’t predict a long-term sense of unfairness and angst. We may try too quickly to solve the problem without the proper tools. On the other hand, a curveball could leave someone stuck in a self-sabotaging pit where it is perceived that there is no way out. Letting that figurative ball drop may be the best way to handle the situation effectively.

Even with my best efforts to correct my digestive issue, it wasn’t until a doctor wrote in my health portal, “Ellen is very anxious.” I knew I was giving myself nothing but more problems unless I addressed my coping mechanisms and my mental state. I needed some balance in body, mind, and spirit. That doctor unknowingly gave me a gift that day. The excessive stress I thought I was hiding so well was busting at the seams and keeping me from getting well.

Sometimes, we all need or should examine lifestyle practices to repair, restore, and revitalize. I didn’t face those curveballs head-on because I wasn’t skilled enough to address that difficult challenge successfully.

Let the curveball drop, retreat, and strategize what’s next:

• Modify your mindset
• Giving yourself a break
• Shift and fine-tuning daily routines
• Align with a solution
• Be at peace with trying your best every day

Life has curveballs, and as frustrating as the unexpected is, we don’t have to overreact. Go ahead and feel whatever emotions arise, but letting those feelings go is critical so they do not hamper your good intentions. Remember that fear holds us back, and courage facilitates change. It’s okay to be impacted by an unexpected disappointment if you don’t wallow in it too long. Choose determination over despair and make those situations a learning opportunity.

 Making time for yourself is a self-care act worth the effort. Remember, it’s okay to seek support if you feel overwhelmed. Prioritize what truly matters, as this is sometimes more effective than trying to handle everything at once. Find a balance between activity and rest, and always remember that you’re not alone in this journey. There are people and resources to help you facilitate harmony when it feels out of your control.

In good health!